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Friday, September 9, 2011

Why Not Me?

I’ve created a new page here at Margs for Mommy titled, “On a Serious Note.”  However, I have yet to post one blog to the page since I put it there.  So today I put the humor aside briefly and share a serious side.  It doesn’t pop up often, but when it does I hope others will find it beneficial.

A year ago today I was five months pregnant with Trey, our second son, and scared to death.  I had found out earlier that summer that Trey had a very rare condition called gastroschisis.  The condition was discovered as my husband and I sat anxiously awaiting for the nurse to tell us the sex of our baby at a three month ultra sound.  Instead of hearing the anticipated, “it’s a boy,” we listened as she went through the body parts:  “Here’s the hand, and here is the mouth, and this, this is what we call gastroschisis.”  And just like that my entire world changed. 

She continued, “gastroschisis is a very rare condition where the intestines are actually growing on the outside of the infant’s body through a defect in the abdominal wall.”  WHAT???  This could not be farther from what we had expected to hear when we arrived that morning.  I honestly could barely comprehend what was happening. 

Further explanation continued as I lay crying hysterically on the table.  The nurse left the room briefly and came back with a large medical book in which I noticed she had purposely placed paper over the photos of a gastroschisis baby upon birth.  I assume she realized that these photos would be more than I could handle at the time, and she was exactly right.    Continually she repeated statement that, “this is something we can fix, of all the bad news I ever deliver to parents this is one of the easiest because I know your baby will be fine.”  She explained he would need surgery upon birth and would have to be in the hospital for an extended period of time to recover after that surgery. 

Knowing we would want to learn more about what we were about to face she offered us information on various websites to visit while strongly encouraging us to stick to those sites and not just Google gastroschisis.  Well of course I didn’t listen to that advice.  Google gastroschisis I did, and some of the information I found took the wind right out of me. 

It is that particular instance that has encouraged me to write this story.  If there is ever another parent out there that is delivered the same bad news as we were delivered that day, and they too run to their computers to Google this new word in their vocabulary, I pray that my story pops up.  I want them to know, EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY!  These next few months will be some of the hardest of your lives, but you are lucky, not only is this a fixable situation, it’s one that will leave you so much more appreciative of the gift God has given you.    

My Google experience did in fact lead me to some encouraging stories, but many more discouraging ones.  In hindsight, I think that’s just the nature of the situation.  When things turn out perfectly fine I would imagine people are less likely to share that information with the world.  But when things don’t, one may feel more inclined to write about it. 

I spent only one afternoon reading these stories of strangers who had been in my shoes.  After that I decided to leave it in God’s hands.  I would listen to the advice from my doctor’s, do everything I could to remain positive and healthy, be the best mom I could to my then 2 year old, and be thankful for the gift I was to receive.  In all honesty, I think my entire outlook on life changed during this pregnancy and not one time did I ever utter the words, “why me?”  Instead I moved forward with the strength in the thought of “why not me?” 

After taking a few days to comprehend what was happening, my husband and I decided that we would only share our unborn child’s condition with a few close loved ones.  I just couldn’t bear the thought of people feeling sorry for us because of what we had to face.  Having a baby is a joyous occasion and I planned to keep it that way. 

This blog is just the start of our journey.  Over the next few months I hope to continue posting about the remainder of my pregnancy with Trey, the breakdowns that occurred during that pregnancy, the bed rest, the preparation for what was to come, the birth of Trey, the surgery, the recovery, my stay at the Ronald McDonald House, how we juggled Trey’s hospital stay with our two year old, the support, the tears, and the overwhelming joy.  But for now I’ll just sign off with saying, if Google brought you here please have it bring you back.  You aren't alone and I hope I can be of some help.  


  1. Wow. Andrea, God bless you and your family. What a wonderful attitude you had and have. You are truly an inspiration. I am relieved that your baby could be "fixed" and all is well. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.

  2. I'm glad your precious baby made it here safely. I'm sure your struggle & experience will help other parents who find themselves with this same condition.

    Stopping by from Members to Remember (a little late)

  3. WOW! You are a wrong person! I am glad that your story ended well! :)

  4. Thank you for sharing your story. Sharing your story will probably help others in similiar situations. I am looking forward to hearing the rest. I couldn't even imagine getting news like that. SO glad and happy it all went well.

  5. I think it's great you are sharing your story. I came from vB, but I know others will be searching on Google and find your posts. Any information when you're so worried about your baby, and what's going on can help...positive or negative. I look forward to reading more!

  6. You are amazing! You can make a huge difference in the lives of the people who are going through this. I am sure it took a lot to write this. This blog will be a wonderful way to help other people going through the same thing. Have a good night!

    Mama Hen

  7. Such an inspiring post. Your journey will provide comfort and encouragement to others that are experiencing the same situation. Man, google is a wolf in sheep's clothing sometimes. I've learned NEVER to google a medical just leads to gore and stress.

    Gina from vB

  8. Thanks for sharing glad all is well. I will be coming back for the funny stuff, and I will keep Trey in my prayers. vB follower

  9. It is wonderful for you to share the "good" story for everyone else who might be going through this to let them know that it's going to be okay. You've taken a situation that could have been bad and made it into something helpful for others. You have a wonderful spirit and I love the way you look at life! Prayers for you all.
    stopping by from vB members to remember!
    Heartfelt Balance Handmade Life

  10. I'm glad you wrote this post and I hope that Google does bring those parents that are scared by that new vocabulary word and see all the positive in your experience. Thanks for that.

    I like your funny side, but I also look forward to the serious notes as well, and learning more about your story here.

    Visiting from vB!

    Smile and Mama With Me

  11. Andrea, thank you for sharing this. My heart goes out to you, but I already feel the strength you've found inside yourself to manage this. I look forward to your updates and learning more about the condition. And I agree that most people don't write about their experiences when things turn out ok, plus they go into caring-for-baby mode! I should write about diapering with a spica cast - something I never did, but appreciated they few moms who did. My best, Nan (vb)